Dishwasher Decisions

Once again we can confirm little things mean a lot.

In some faraway countries, the evening meal is served is a tall, conical-shape bowl. The meat (or other protein) is placed in the bottom of the bowl. It is covered with a “gravy and high-intensity seasonings.”  Then come the vegetables. Then the rice. Stir and eat. Family members are seated around a table. They talk to each other.

When new immigrants arrive in the United States, they work hard and prosper. The “fortunate” ones eventually own a dishwasher. The traditional china bowl doesn’t fit in the dishwasher so the meat; gravy, vegetables and rice are served on a flat plate.  The quantity of meat suddenly seems pitifully small. So it is increased until the daily diet resembles that of the typical “American.” Life expectancy is decreased until it resembles with that of the typical “American.”

Before the invention of the dishwasher, Mom washed the dishes. A daughter dried them. Another daughter put them away in the cupboard. This was a time to share secrets, worries and hopes.

These quiet shared confidences slip away when one person quickly loads the dishwasher and retreats to solitary communication with a small electronic screen.

Little things do mean a lot…